There is such a thing as physical heart pain. Most people just choose not to talk about it. The heart acts as a muscle. It stretches and adapts under the weight of new experience. When we encounter positive things, the heart flourishes and opens responsively. Likewise, after prolonged exposure to negativity–the heart will naturally contract defensively. This is a protective measure when hurt becomes impossible to bear.
No one should judge another person’s reaction to hurt and pain. We all have different expectations and dreams. A consistent staple in your life may be a distant, silent longing for someone else. It is easy to take what we have for granted. In our pursuit for ideal and the all elusive happiness–we forget to take inventory. We lose sight of our blessings in the face of loss.
My message is simple: Breathe in, breathe out.
When anxiety rears up in your chest and your heart beats fast…breathe in.
When pain overwhelms your consciousness and you feel stuck…breathe out.
When the bully in your mind tells you lies about who you’ll never be..breathe in.
When hope escapes and darkness squeezes tightly around your heart…breathe out.
Do not let the still, small, voice suffocate under layers of doubt.
Your job, your goal–in the midst of any undesirable circumstance is to pull yourself out. The most powerful thing you can do for yourself under severe pressure and growing impatient is to remain calm. Inspect everything. The shows you watch, the books you read, the people you meet. Eliminate anything subtracting from your peace. Explore the temporary emotions you feel now. Dissect the conversation between your soul and your mind.
What you choose to believe will be evident in your life.
Who is this voice screaming, you are not good enough? Why is it easier to run with this self-deprecating dialogue?
Honestly, disappointment changes everything. We make mistakes and pay the real price for being wrong–time. We give our time and power to people we love and who we want to love us. But when things do not work in your favor, when you are forced to shift direction–you cannot move forward without healing from the inside out. Survivors are known to put on a brave face. But life is more than dressing up wounds and taking scars out on the town.
Sometimes you have to grab the red-shirt. Get physical, mental, emotional therapy.
And sit down.
Maybe you even sit out the whole season.
I know, I know. You are the star player and everyone is counting on you. If you do not play this game you will never forgive yourself. Your career will be over. Your faith arraigned. This voice becomes so loud that you insist on putting your injured self back on the roster. Make no mistake, an injured player can in fact play. But you are not your best. And you risk your own necessary healing when you refuse to rest. No game is worth the rest of your life.
Healing requires you to take your time. Time to learn, to process, to grow. Healing will ask you to make better decisions. It will ask you to let go of toxic relationships and go on new, beneficial journeys. Healing is the soul’s intervention when you have buried yourself in the mud. Healing is a complete stop, in a world that is constantly turning.
But once you take the time to invest in your self, you will find you could not be happier anywhere else.